Are you someone who sets goals and usually accomplishes them?
Most of us have goals, dreams, and passions in life; most of us want to do something big. But even if we get over the negative self-talk preventing us from fighting for – and achieving – our dreams, our motivation can quickly drop, causing us to delay our progress or just give up altogether.
Learning how to set goals and keep your motivation high is crucial! Having a mission in life and fighting for it is not only one of the most attractive features a man can have, but it’s also one of the most important keys to long-term confidence and happiness. Aim to reach your dreams, but remember: whether or not you eventually accomplish your goal – while important – is less relevant than the person you become in the process. With that being said, I’ll give you my top five tips to make sure you stay motivated and achieve your dreams!
1. Define your goals!
Without goals, and plans to reach them, you are like a ship that has set sail with no destination. – Fitzhugh Dodson
Do you even know what your goals are?
I mean, sure…
Everybody wants to be rich and successful.
Everyone wants to have an amazing body.
Almost all men want to be great with girls.
And the list goes on-and-on…
But these aren’t really goals – they’re cloudy dreams at best. You have to understand that there is no finish-line with these statements, and no real goal to accomplish.
I mean, think about it…
What does being rich and successful mean to you? Buying a new car? A house? Being able to eat at a fancy restaurant a few times a month? Making a few hundred dollars extra each month? Quitting your job and owning a business? Finally buying the most masculine fragrance in existence?
When will you have achieved getting an amazing body? Is it when you can bench-press 140 kgs? Or perhaps when all of your abs are showing? Or maybe when you have a certain arm-size, reach a certain bodyweight, or sprint 100 meters under 15 seconds?
What does being great with girls mean to you in practice? A date? A one-night-stand? Going on dates 3 times a week? Finally becoming exclusive with your crush? Having the confidence to approach girls regularly? Marrying your dream-girl? Consistently getting laid?
You have to realize that to stay motivated, you have to know with certainty that there is an actual, clear finish-line somewhere in whatever you’re fighting to achieve. And you also have to know exactly what it means to cross that finish-line. This doesn’t mean that you can’t create new goals after you’ve crossed it – in fact, you definitely should! It simply means that you should know exactly what you want to achieve, and when you can say that you’ve finally succeeded.
Therefore, to set good goals, make sure that your goal is:
- Well-defined, meaning that you know exactly what you want to achieve, and precisely what needs to be accomplished before you can say that you’ve succeeded
- Measurable, meaning that you can measure your progress and your success (you can also set yourself deadlines here to keep yourself on track)
- Rewarding but realistic, meaning you’re fighting for something you actually want and poses a challenge for you to achieve – without being impossible for you to ever accomplish it (don’t go too small here, but also don’t go insanely big – you can always set new goals later)
2. Break it down!
The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. – Lao Tzu
Any long-term goal worth fighting for will seem intimidating – hell, even impossible – at first glance. The goal just seems so large and so distant that suddenly anything you can possibly do will appear to be insignificant or even totally useless. If you think about it, this is an extremely scary feeling: whatever you’re capable of doing today is insignificant in the big picture.
But what if you find a way to make the big picture a little smaller? What if your big picture becomes a mosaic of small and medium pictures? Then all of a sudden today’s actions and choices don’t seem insignificant anymore, as they actually make a difference. Break your big goals down to smaller short-term goals to make sure you’re not intimidated by them! This way, you’ll feel like you’re constantly making progress – getting closer to achieving your goal one step at a time. It will also make managing yourself and keeping track of your progression a lot easier, as you will know exactly what you need in order to complete one of these partial goals!
Think about it… If you want to get to the top of a tall building, you wouldn’t expect to somehow fly to the top (let’s say there’s no elevator). You’d probably take the stairs, one step at a time – however small or insignificant that one step might seem in your journey to the top. These small steps will eventually add up over time, until one day you end up achieving your original goal!
3. Fight every day!
It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop. – Confucius
Trust me on this: when it comes to fighting for your dreams, you want to be the turtle, not the hare…
Previously, whenever I had a dream I wanted to achieve, I made the same mistake over-and-over again: I got very excited about my new goal, worked on it all day long for a few days, until I finally burned out completely. Something would always come up eventually that would distract me, and I would lose focus and forget about my dream altogether for weeks – months, even. The more time passed without me doing anything to get even a little closer to reaching the goal I set for myself, the harder it was mentally to get back on track. This usually led me to convince myself that my goal was too ambitious anyway, that it just wasn’t the right time to fight for it, or that it wasn’t really that important – all convenient lies I told myself to make giving up easier.
You have to realize that having momentum is the most important factor that will determine whether you succeed or not. Don’t let working towards your goals become short-lived jolts of passion and energy followed by long waits of doing nothing. Progress should be gradual but constant – reaching your goal is a marathon, not a sprint! To build momentum – and keep it going – you should work towards your dream every single day. Even if you only have a few minutes, you should still make the most of whatever time you have to do something – anything – to get you a little closer to success! Having momentum will keep your motivation high, while also making sure that you make progress every day.
4. Celebrate your victories!
Don’t wait until you reach your goal to be proud of yourself. Be proud of every step you take. – Karen Salmansohn
Sure, you’ll be happy and satisfied once you reach your goal and achieve something that’s important to you. But in the meantime, you shouldn’t be miserable! You should be proud of yourself for fighting for your dreams – something that most people give up on at some point. You should be happy every time you see progress in whatever you’re doing. You should be grateful for the things you’ve achieved so far, and proud of the person you’ve become in the process.
This is why it’s so important to be proud of all the small victories you achieve. Don’t award yourself participation trophies, but celebrate each and every small step you take on your journey. These small wins will eventually add up and lead to the grand victory of reaching your original desire!
When it comes to Vikingfinity, I smile every time one of my posts gets a like; I’m grateful for every comment you guys write; I’m excited about every single follower I have either here, on Vikingfinity’s Facebook-page, or even on the Vikingfinity playlist on Spotify; I’m also proud of every tiny improvement to the website… Are these huge steps? Definitely not! But still, celebrating these small wins keeps my motivation high by creating a burning desire to experience more of them – while propelling me forward towards my original ambition! If you manage to adopt the same mentality in whatever your aspiration is, the whole journey will become more enjoyable – making you more motivated to keep on going!
5. Don’t beat yourself up!
The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Anything worth fighting for isn’t something that comes easily. So, you will probably go down the wrong path a few times, and experience failures along the way. This isn’t because you’re some kind of loser – occasional failures are natural phases of the road to success.
How you take your failures, however, can easily make-or-break your will to get back up and keep on going. Failing is tough – but with each and every failure, you can learn a valuable lesson that will get you one step closer to success. If you analyze what went wrong and draw important conclusions, then you can use your newly found knowledge to help you reach your goal later on. But if you beat yourself up about it and collapse in defeat, then all that work you put in – and even your failure – will have been for nothing. Accept your failures, learn from them, and get back up stronger than ever before – trying things differently and more intelligently this time.
Another type of failure is the failure to stay on track. You might skip on working on your goal for a day, a few days, or even for over a week; or you might find yourself going around in circles, not really getting anywhere. This happens to everyone! But once you realize that it’s happened, you have a decision to make: you can either feel bad about yourself for hindering your own progress, or you can get back on track as fast as possible. Beating yourself up will never grant you any benefits in life – you might as well accept the past and learn your lesson, while focusing your energy and your thoughts on the present and the future!
What are your strategies to keep yourself on track and to stay focused? Share your thoughts in the comments! Also, if you enjoyed reading this post, make sure to drop it a like (maybe even share it?) and follow Vikingfinity – I write posts just like this twice a week, and you don’t want to miss them!